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No wonder some women are unconsciously passive aggressive when expressing anger, sadness, or frustration. For years, they have been subjected to so much gaslighting that they can no longer express themselves in a way that feels authentic to them.
They say, “I’m sorry” before giving their opinion. In an email or text message, they place a smiley face next to a serious question or concern, thereby reducing the impact of having to express their true feelings.
You know how it looks: “You’re late :D ”
These are the same women who stay in relationships they don’t belong in, who don’t follow their dreams, who withdraw from the kind of life they want to live.
I hate when people claim that women are crazy or complicated or don’t know what they want because fuck you. When a woman is vocal about her opinions, desires, feelings, you call her a bitch or crazy or hysterical. Women have been taught that the only way to communicate while maintaining their physical and emotional safety is to be indirect.
One of the best things a woman can do is stop apologizing. It’s hard, though. I’m still working on it.
One of my new year’s resolutions is to check every email and text before I send it and remove the phrase “Sorry, but…” from it.
I really relate to this. People accuse me of not expressing what I want or being indecisive and not assertive, but then I am called “crazy” or “unstable” for actually speaking up. After a while I give in and say, “you’re right. I’m sorry I’m crazy.” And I start to believe it. How do I get my self-confidence and assertiveness back after years of that??
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