This is so, so good and exactly what I wanted to say when I read some articles about this book yesterday. Yeah, some people regret their casual hook-ups because they feel “unfulfilled.” But lots of other people regret it because they are shamed for it. We’re told that hooking up is what we’re supposed to do - but we’re also told that we’re supposed to feel bad about doing it. What kind of shit is that? How about we let people do what they want?

I skimmed the original letter and it bothered me for a ton of reasons. I kind of agree with her basic point though: I do miss my elite college where I was surrounded by extremely intelligent and ambitious people, compared to the real world where there are a lot of stupid and mediocre men. On the other hand, my college was also full of lots of assholes whom I will be glad to never see again.

And not everyone wants to or should find their spouse at age 21. And not everyone wants a spouse who comes from their exact same background. And she suggests that most men will marry women who are less intelligent than they are but are pretty? Ugh.

Also, this: 

“As freshman women, you have four classes of men to choose from. Every year, you lose the men in the senior class, and you become older than the class of incoming freshman men. So, by the time you are a senior, you basically have only the men in your own class to choose from, and frankly, they now have four classes of women to choose from. Maybe you should have been a little nicer to these guys when you were freshmen?”

So there’s no such thing as a woman dating someone younger than she is???

And, ew, her ridiculous high opinions of her own sons: “My older son had the good judgment and great fortune to marry a classmate of his, but he could have married anyone.” Could he have?

What we should be lamenting is that the value of education and intelligence is not more widespread. Maybe then we would have a better pick of partners as adults.

Reading the coverage of this case is making me sick to my stomach. I pray that true justice is enacted, because shit like this has to stop. No matter what the circumstances, sex with someone who is unconscious is RAPE. Just because she got drunk and hung out with males does not mean she deserved to be raped. As the Twitter feminists are pointing out, lots of men hang out with drunk women without raping them, because they aren’t rapists! The teen boys in this story are rapists. There are photos and videos of what they did to her!

Being a woman is so scary. Apparently you can have a few too many drinks, hang out at a party with some dudes, and it’s YOUR FAULT when they RAPE YOUR UNCONSCIOUS BODY.

“It isn’t the first time Little Monster Artpop has linked the Queen of Pop to the HIV/AIDS crisis. ‘Madonna told her fans that it was okay to go out and screw anybody and anything,’ a January 26, 2013 post reads. ‘Many gay men listened to her, had unsafe sex, and contracted AIDS. They died. They were so stupid to listen to such a slut that their death was karma.’”

Um, calling women sluts (and shaming men for being stupid for contracting AIDS) is not pro-ANYONE’S rights. This is horrendous.